Divorce Tip: Pick 2-3 People to Know the Whole Story

If you're navigating a divorce, you're definitely not alone. It's a tough time, and it's totally normal to feel like either you want to shout your story from the rooftops or just curl up and hide for a while. Either way, you need a solid support system.

Here's a little tip that's helped a lot of folks: choose just 2-3 people to share the whole story with. Everyone else gets a "pocket sentence" – more on that in a sec!

Why just 2-3 people? Let's break it down:

• Real Friends vs. Curious Onlookers: You'll find some genuinely caring people, but unfortunately, there are also those who just want the juicy details. You might think you know who's who, but sometimes, you get surprised. Having a small, trusted circle helps you avoid getting hurt.

• Your Rock-Solid Crew: These 2-3 people are your ride-or-dies. They're the ones you can count on, no matter how messy things get. They'll listen, understand, and help you stay strong.

• Protecting Your Peace: Talking about your divorce over and over again can be exhausting. It's like re-living the pain, and that takes a toll. Limiting who you share your story with helps you protect your emotional well-being.

Okay, so about that "pocket sentence." It's a short, firm statement you can use when people ask about your divorce. Something like, "Yes, we're divorcing. It's hard, but I'm focusing on moving forward." Keep it simple and direct.

And for those moments when someone wants to give you the latest gossip about your ex, try this: "Thank you for trying to be helpful, but I think it's best for both of us to move on. I don't need to know what they're doing." It might be tempting to listen, but setting those boundaries is a really important part of healing.

Divorce is a painful journey, and we're here to support you. Dondi works with adults navigating divorce, and Briana specializes in helping children through this process. We're passionate about helping people recover and rebuild.